How to cope with loneliness over winter
Over winter, with the darker evenings, feelings of loneliness can seem more overwhelming than ever.
When I was 16, just before I started college, I lost my dad. It was a time filled with uncertainty and pain, and I found myself struggling to navigate this new reality without him. Growing up, music was a significant part of our lives, especially reggae.
Coming from a Jamaican background, our home was always filled with music, and it became a bridge that connected us in a unique way. My dad and I shared a deep love for the same songs. Music was more than just a background noise; it was a huge part of our relationship. We would spend hours listening to our favourite songs, singing along, and even having funny dance sessions in the living room.
After my dad passed away, I found myself turning to reggae music more than ever. Each song carried a piece of him with it, making me feel as though he was still in the room with me. Whenever I listen to our favourite songs, it’s like he’s right there beside me, sharing in the moment. It’s a bittersweet feeling—on one hand, it brings tears to my eyes knowing he’s not physically here, but on the other, it brings a profound sense of comfort and connection.
Whenever I'm having a tough day or feeling overwhelmed by grief, I put on a few reggae songs or certain playlists filled with songs that we used to listen to. I find that music is a way to process my emotions, to let the tears flow, and to ultimately feel a little lighter. It's amazing how music can make you feel so in touch with your feelings, offering a release and a sense of peace.
Writing has also become a therapeutic outlet for me. Journaling about my grief and how music helps me cope has been incredibly healing. It's a way to pour out all the emotions that are sometimes too heavy to speak out loud. It has taught me that it's okay to feel deeply, to cry, and to find joy in the memories. Through music, I've learned that while grief never fully goes away, it becomes a part of who you are, and you find ways to carry on with the love and memories always in your heart.
For anyone else navigating the rollercoaster of grief, I hope you find your own form of peace, whether it's through music, writing, or another outlet. Remember that it's okay to feel, to remember, and to find comfort in the things that keep you connected to your loved ones. Music has a unique power to heal, to bring back memories, and to make you feel less alone in your journey.
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