How to cope with your first Christmas without your person - Youth Team
Three of our Youth Ambassadors, Anna, Libby and Angharad, reflect on their first Christmas without their person.
In the last five years, Cameron has lost his dad, mum and sister. He writes a letter to his younger self, exploring his journey through grief and growth.
Dear Cameron,
I hope this letter finds you well, although I know that’s not likely. I am writing to you from the future, five years from now. I remember this time in your life so vividly – the unimaginable pain you’re going through, the raw and all-encompassing grief that has taken over every part of your being.
It’s been four years since your dad passed away, and I know it still feels like yesterday. The pain has become a part of you, but you’ve learned to live with it.
But I also know that’s not what’s weighing on your mind right now. You’ve just lost your mum and sister. They were taken from you suddenly, leaving behind a gaping hole in your life that seems impossible to fill. Your grandparents have taken you in, and while they’re doing their best to be there for you, you feel lost and alone.
I wish I could reach through time and give you a hug. I wish I could tell you that everything will be okay, that the pain will subside, and that you’ll find your way through this darkness. But I know that’s not what you need to hear right now.
Instead, let me offer you some advice that might help you navigate this difficult time:
Let your friends be there for you
They’ve not experienced this pain before, but they want to help. They care about you deeply, and they’re doing their best to show you that. Let them in. Let them help you carry this heavy burden. You don’t have to do this alone.
Keep up your routine
I know how hard it is to get out of bed in the morning, to face the day ahead, but I promise you, it’s worth it. Even the smallest steps – taking a shower, getting dressed, going for a walk – will make a difference. They’ll remind you that you’re still alive, still fighting, still here.
Let the grief shape you in your own way
Don’t let anyone else tell you how to feel or how to cope. This is your journey, and you get to choose how you want to walk it. It’s okay to feel angry, sad, lost, and confused. But don’t let those emotions consume you. Use your emotions to create rather than destroy – a hammer can be used to break a table or to build a house, it’s up to you which way you direct it.
I want you to know that you have so much to look forward to. In a few days, someone will give you a very unexpected gift. This summer, you’ll work on a building project with your friend, and it will bring you closer together than ever before. And, however much you don’t want to go, make sure you go to that party in September and talk to the girl who sits next to you – spoiler alert, she’s now your wife! You won’t believe how much your life will change in the next five years – I wish you could see where you are now! Running your own IT company and living in a beautiful part of the country with the most supportive and loving wife.
Keep going, you can do it. You don’t realise it just yet, but you’re an inspiration for so many people. Nobody expected you to carry on, to push through, but you do and you’re stronger for it now. Remember to treat others how you want to be treated and be the friend you want to have, and you’ll gain friends closer than brothers, sisters, fathers, and mothers.
Cameron, I’m so proud of you. Keep going, one step at a time. I’ll be here waiting for you, five years in the future, cheering you on every step of the way.
With all my love,
Future You.
Three of our Youth Ambassadors, Anna, Libby and Angharad, reflect on their first Christmas without their person.
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