How to cope with loneliness over winter
Over winter, with the darker evenings, feelings of loneliness can seem more overwhelming than ever.
My name is Joshua and I’m 16 years old, my great grandmother passed away in 2020, when I was 13 years old.
She was dedicated to volunteering and was the centre of the community activities in her village, she was kind, honest and very caring towards her grandchildren. From the age of 2, she would collect me from nursery and look after me until my mother returned home from work, right up to the day I went to school. I have lots of precious memories of her and enjoy thinking about them.
Several months after losing my great grandmother, my mother contacted Winston’s Wish as both my brother and I were struggling to process what had happened. After demonstrating baby steps, I decided to apply my positive mindset into supporting the local village response team by delivering food parcels, inspired by my great grandmother’s volunteering.
My great grandmother watched me when I was learning to ride my horse, a 15.2 Ha Skewbald mare, which was very challenging at times. She was always so proud of me, and I’m still determined to achieve my goals and make a difference in my local community because of her. Today, I’m a National Champion in show jumping and have won many other major championships.
My biggest achievement to date is I recently became the Lord-Lieutenants Person of the Year 2023 along with winning the Courage award and being recognised for my volunteering. I have also been recognised by Martin Clunes in the form of a video, and His Majesty the King in writing. It was my late great grandmother that taught us all to believe in ourselves, and I will often say to people that even in grief, you can achieve whatever you turn your mind to as I am living proof of that.
In the start of my grief, I would often be very quiet and reflect on the good times I had with both my grandparents before they passed. I would like to say to other young grieving people, there is no right or wrong way to grieve, it’s ok to be angry, laugh and even cry. For me, I like to recognise white butterflies flying around me and seeing white feathers, I believe this is a supporting sign of my great grandmother being with me and wanting me to succeed.
Talk Grief is powered by Winston’s Wish, a childhood bereavement charity that supports grieving children and young people up to 25. If you want to talk to someone about your grief, call us on 08088 020 021 (open 8am-8pm, weekdays), email ask@winstonswish.org or use our online chat (open 8am-8pm, weekdays). If you need urgent support in a crisis, you can contact the 24/7 Winston’s Wish Crisis Messenger by texting WW to 85258.
Over winter, with the darker evenings, feelings of loneliness can seem more overwhelming than ever.
Crying is a normal response when your person has died, no matter how long ago. There's no right or wrong way to grieve, and it's okay to let it out.
A guide for grieving young people from the Winston's Wish Bereavement Support Team.
Three of our Youth Ambassadors, Anna, Libby and Angharad, reflect on their first Christmas without their person.
Winter and the Christmas holidays can be a difficult time of year. Here are five ways to remember your person this season.
Winston's Wish Bereavement Support Workers share their 8 top tips for bereaved teens and young adults through the colder months.
Youth Ambassadors share the ways they remember their person digitally, through photo albums, playlists, and more.
Youth Ambassadors, Daisy, Freya, and Katie, share their personal views of their own secondary losses as a result of their bereavement.
Hear from some of the Youth Team about times when their teachers have helped them with their grief.
Some tips for taking care of yourself when you're grieving for a celebrity or public figure.
Our Bereavement Support Team have written some guidance on how to manage grief when you feel like you aren't able to be open.
Lilly shares an introduction to her grief experience and why it's so important to her to be a Winston's Wish Youth Ambassador.
Hear from some of their Youth Team about how they found support at uni.
Angus, Content Creator, says, "This message is about embracing change and not letting current moments pass you by."
Coping strategies to support you after a teacher has died
Tips from our bereavement support team to help you with big life changes like moving out as a young adult.
Useful tips to help you understand and cope with your grief.
Feeling sad that your person isn't there, guilty that you're celebrating your results, or proud of yourself for your results. There's no right or wrong way to grieve.
It can be very difficult knowing what to say and to be around someone who has experienced the death of someone close. Adults find it difficult too, so try not to feel bad about this.
The death of a friend may feel extremely difficult and can feel as significant as that of a family member. Whatever you're feeling is valid, and there is no right or wrong way to grieve.
Jack, Content Creator, writes about how managing his grief through running has led to him winning the Leeds Half Marathon 2024!
Iman, Youth Ambassador, explains about Eid and shares what it's like for her and her family to grieve during Eid.
Miranda shares about how she uses music in different ways to help express her grief and emotions.
Ashleigh writes about how both writing and music have helped her in her grief.
The Winston's Wish bereavement support team share top tips for managing grief this Father's Day.
Grace's dad died from cancer when she was eight years old, she shares how she remembers her dad on Father’s Day.
Feelings of worry are very normal when you're grieving. Read on to discover some ways to manage these feelings.
Useful tips for exam season if you're grieving
Youth Ambassador, Iman, shares about her Eid celebrations as a grieving young person
Content Creator, Angus shares his thoughts
Useful tips for exam season
Interview with Mark O’Sullivan, writer of Tell Me Everything
Tips to help improve your sleep when you're grieving
How poetry can be a useful way to express your feelings
Young people share what it's like to grieve while studying at uni.
Our bereavement experts are available to speak to for immediate support on weekdays from 8am to 8pm.
Get top tips from bereavement experts, and hear from Youth Ambassadors, Henri and Teigan, about their experiences of Mother's Day.
Phoebe's mum died when she was nine. She shares how she feels on Mother’s Day and how she remembers her mum.